a. Appendix: Courtesy & Brave Space Guidelines
January 10, 2017, 12:40 PM
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Appendix: Courtesy & Brave Space Guidelines

Encouraging courtesy through conscious questioning and active listening, where all participants are encouraged to grow and learn from others.

• Strive to learn from experiences outside of your own. Try to understand experiences from another point of view, and seek permission to ask questions about those experiences.

• Do not hesitate to ask questions.

• Strive to ask for clarification before responding, to avoid misunderstandings as much as possible. E.g. "I interpret what you are saying as... Is that correct?"

• Recognize that all individuals have unique experiences, values, and opinions. What may be true for some may not be true for everyone.

• Respect the opinions and preferences of others. It is acceptable to agree to disagree.

• Avoid criticizing the person, but rather the specific and isolated action.

• Validate ideas, feelings, or experiences of others. Theirs are as important as your own. E.g. "Thank you for taking the time to..."

• Practice empathy even if opinions differ. E.g. "If I was in your position, I would feel the same way."

• Do not attack or debate the experiences of another individual.

• Personalize rather than generalize. Don't over-generalize when it comes to a certain group of people. Use "I" statements rather than "they".

• Keep IC out of OOC and vice versa. Communicate openly and honestly.

• Calling in can be a more compassionate method that calling someone out. Mistakes are allowed to happen and should serve as a tool to learn and grow from the experience. Identify the subject, the behavior, and why you are engaging the other person. Open up a conversation with them, sharing your values, and listening to theirs. Understanding another individual's point of view and reconciling with them is a way of unlearning, of letting go of prejudices.

• Address conflicts peacefully, and seek mediation if conflicts escalate.

Disclaimer: These guidelines are not enforced but recorded here for the reference of players when dealing with conflict or other difficult conversations amongst one another.

A big thank you to Hero for providing this reference, adapted from The University of California-Berkeley's Brave Space Guidelines.

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