pack colors, the 3.1 rule question

tldr for my post - y'all didn't do anything wrong posting this thread, or suggesting ways to make this change better/reasons why you don't think this change is a good idea.

I don't want anyone to feel discouraged from posting things like this in the future!  We just want to be open that sometimes the tone/assumptions people make in these sorts of discussions hurt <3 and address it.  We are also looking to clarify more around CM role vs member input, as a means to mitigate this in the future.  It's a hard balance to strike.